KNOW THE WARNING SIGNS
OF AN ABUSIVE PARTNER
All battering is dangerous; one push or shove can quickly escalate to a life-threatening situation. Battering increases in frequency and severity over time. Certain behaviors, actions and words by an abuser, however, indicate particular danger for you. The ACADV wants to help you identify if you are in a risky situation.
Look for These Warning Signs
If you see any of these in your abuser, you should know that your relationship could become deadly. Please take caution and call the Alabama Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-650-6522 for immediate help.
5 Red Flags of Abuse
Key Personality Traits of a Domestic Violence Perpetrator
Blames others for his problems
Playfully uses force during sex
Has a history of battering
Experiences extreme highs and lows
Damages her personal belongings
Makes threats of bodily harm
Minimizes the violence
Displays frightening rage
Cruel to children or pets
Exhibits a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
Breaks or strikes objects
Manipulates partner through guilt
Uses physical force
10 Lies Abusers Frequently Tell:
Domestic violence affects every member of the family, including the children. Statistics show that more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their home each year. The child’s reaction to a home environment where family violence is present can vary by gender and age. The first step to helping a child experiencing this is to be aware of the potential effects and know the signs.
While individual children will respond differently to a batterer’s behavior, the following are signs that some children may exhibit:
Need More Help?
If you think your child may benefit from a referral to a professional counselor or connecting with a community organization that works with youth, please contact ACADV for more information.
In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse.
Teen dating violence is influenced by how teenagers look at themselves and others. Because teenagers are typically inexperienced with relationships, have “romantic” views of love, and seek independence from parents, dating violence often remains hidden.
Statistics show that one in three adolescents in the U.S. has experienced some type of violence in a dating relationship. In order to build better relationships, young adults need to be educated on domestic and dating violence, understand that they have choices and believe they are valuable people who deserve to be treated with respect.
Young Men May Believe
- They have the right to “control” their female partners in any way necessary.
- They should demand intimacy.
- They may lose respect if they are attentive and supportive toward their girlfriends.
Young Women May Believe
- They are responsible for solving problems in their relationships.
- Their boyfriend’s jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse, is “romantic.”
- There is no one to ask for help.
Common Signs of Dating Violence
- Physical signs of injury.
- Dropping out of school.
- Failing grades.
- Changes in mood or personality.
- Use of drugs/alcohol.
- Emotional outbursts.
- Suicidal thoughts.
Dating Power and Control Wheel – This visual tool is targeted towards teens and highlights the main branches of sexual, physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. It focuses on the two roots of domestic violence: power and control, to explain how to identify these types of behavior.
1 IN 3 WOMEN
1 IN 4 MEN
have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner